It's official. I was married to the biggest jackass alive. We are still working on the Holiday Custody Schedule. We made up a mock calendar for our divorce proceedings and the mediation back in March. And it should and could have worked out fine. It alternated every other holiday between him and I, then switched for the next year. It was on an odd/even year schedule. However, every holiday since then, we have gone the rounds over who has custody. I was referring to the schedule that was in our "divorce education class for parents" manual. WE BOTH HAVE IT. IT IS EXACTLY THE SAME. But apparently it was not the same as the one that was listed online- or the one that my lawyer attached to our divorce decree. So I asked him repeatedly, "Why can't we just use the one in the manual- that we both have?" He insisted it wasn't current. I don't know why the hell it matters. If we both have the same sheet of paper- why can't we use the one that is in the manual that we would naturally refer to. But of course, he has to go the much more difficult route of finding one online that is "the most current" although it has no date on it. Trying to just finalize this mess I agreed to use the link he was looking at. Even then he still wanted to review it for a couple of days and get back to me. I refused. I told him we were finishing this decision before we hung up. It only took 5 more minutes- and there was only one discrepancy. I told him to bookmark it in his favorites, print it out, and put it in a place where he could refer to it without having to look it up again. If they make any additional changes to the code--we are not changing from what we decided today.
I am so totally frustrated with him. I don't understand why he is being such a fucking robot about everything. He acts like he doesn't have a single emotion in his body. If we both agree to something- it should be the agreement. Why does there always have to be an official piece of paper or law attached to something to make it MORE OFFICIAL. Obviously this is going to be a never ending dramatic divorce. I have lost all respect for him- and any shred of emotion I had left for him has been stomped into the ground. This is the fourth go around trying to iron this out. I told him I would be happy to meet with my lawyer and make this last decision of ours official with signatures and whatever else is necessary to make it binding for him. He said I was being ridiculous. I don't think so---look who's calling the kettle black.
He had the nerve to bring Corilynn and McKayde to Las Vegas last week for Montana's solo competition. Like Corilyn even gives a shit about Montana's solo at this point--she doesn't know anything about her. They were just there to be on vacation together. I wish he just wouldn't have come at all. He took the kids for a day and went to the M&M factory. I know they had fun- but he is just rubbing this girlfriend in my face. And my families. It was really tough and I cried after acting all nice and accommodating. They left-- and I broke down. Grama and Mom were good and gave me all the support and confidence I needed to get happy and get on with MY vacation. He has no respect for me or my families feelings. I know we will have to get over it and make the best of it---how does he expect us to become friends and be on friendly terms when he is constantly acting like the biggest ass around??
I tried to plan a trip to Yellowstone with my parents--but of course his plans trumped mine. I tried to arrange a 4th of July celebration with the kids--but then our holiday were switched again. I am up to my eyeballs in anger and frustration with this idiot. I know this whole first year of divorce will be full of disappointment and will be a learning curve. Honestly--I have a whole new appreciation for Chris--I thought he was difficult--obviously Eric is going to make him look like a freakin' saint!!
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