I received Eric's response to my petition for divorce. His ammendments are completely ridiculous. He wants to only pay alimony for 5 years- not 7 like my lawyer told me on the phone. It should be 10. He still wants to persue joint physical custody- and therefore the child support would be completely different, only $400.
He is requesting that I keep the house- but immediately refinance it and put it in my name. If I don't refinance, when the house sells, he wants 50% of the profit at that time- not just what the house is worth now. Also in lieu of 50% of his 401K- he will give me 11,500 additional home proceeds. What?
He added a clause that neither of us could move more than 150 miles away. He also added that he will make decisions concerning the kids when they are in his custody and I will make them when they are in my care. Can't we make these decisions together?
I am absolutely disgusted. He knows I won't be able to make it on the money he is offering. I honestly don't know what he expects me to do. I don't make enough money to refinance- so he made the suggestion that I find a co-signer for the home loan. Hello? Who the hell would that be? My parents are retiring, and I wouldn't ask them for that kind of a favor anyway- I have two ex-husbands who have left me high and dry. Am I suppose to pursue a welfare check so that I can keep my kids in a home of our own? Or a third job- so that I will be home even less?
I am torn about my work situation now. I will not let the kids go stay with him anymore- only on his weekends and the one night a week. I cannot believe he would penalize me for WORKING!! Should I quit working and ask him for more money? Should I work days and ask him for more money to pay for his half of child care? He is trying to arrange the alimony in such a way that once I finish school he will be paying me less and less. Doesn't he realize that I will actually be making the same amount of money (or less) than I do right now? It would be a teachers salary- pull your head out dumbass!
Why is he in such a hurry to wash his hands of me. I can tell he is trying to make me move in with my parents. Then he can pay me less, and clear all financial obligation ties we have together. Well guess what pal. I am not going to agree to any of your crazy demands. I am sticking to my guns. I will have physical custody and we will share legal custody. I will work out whatever I have to to make sure these kids know that I am the primary caregiver- just like I have been since they were born. Just because you come home from work at 6:30 and put them to bed at 9:00- and sleep in the bedroom next to theirs- does that make you a better parent than me? I help them get ready in the morning, take them to school, pick them up from school, take them to their lessons, pick them up from their lessons, I am the one arranging all of their plans and the one who knows what is going on in their life. He still doesn't even know what time or day any of their lessons are, let alone anything about their school lives. Then I work all night long so that I won't be missing any important time with them- then it begins again the next day. If they stay home sick- or have a day off from school- who is here for them. ME! What will happen in the summer if I am working all day? Where will they go then? I will find employment that will keep me home with them. If it pays less- I guess that is what I have to do. I refuse to be labeled a part time parent when I am a triple shift mom!
I am flabbergasted that he is behaving this way. I must have really done something horrible for him to treat me this way. He has always bent over backward supporting me- telling me what a great mom I am- he would never let the kids disrespect me. So why is he doing a complete flip-flop on that philosophy? I feel like he is flushing my existence down the toilet. He wants to rub me out of his memory and just throw crumbs at me to keep me happy. Well, obviously, he doesn't know who he's dealing with! It's about to get ugly. Thanks for making this quick and easy E!
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