Well, the mediation was totally exhausting, nerve wracking, and successful- I think- for both of us. Four hours of back and forth, negotiating, nitpicking, and getting the wording just right. Eric got the custody he wanted (which was really hard for me), and I was able to keep the house, and get the alimony and child support I needed. The rest were just silly details to support those main agenda items. I haven't talked to Eric but I hope he isn't angry. He and his lawyer/barracuda were lowballing everything and lucky for me, my lawyer took the reigns and plowed us on through to a deal and didn't budge on anything. Thank goodness my lawyer was there because I learned how tough it is to get what you want. I would have caved about hour two of negotiations.
I am so happy that the kids will get to stay in their same schools, with their same friends, we don't have to move, I have money to pay the bills (still need a job to complete the plan), they are close to their dads, and I can keep the house my kids have grown up in. I do have to refinance it within a few years, but for now- everything is as it should be.
I feel so blessed. I know that Eric is a good dad and I am so happy that he fought for time with his children- he REALLY wants to spend time with them and not just be a visitor. I may have picked two rotten husbands- but how did I pick two of the best dads around.
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