I've had a little time to calm down. But I am still totally peeved. Eric has been gone to Thailand for 10 days. So the kids were really looking forward to spending time with him this weekend. Well- he just got in last night, so he has missed Wed, Thurs, and Fri with them all ready-because it is his week. He picked them up this morning (Saturday) and planned to spend the whole day with them and then bring them back tonight because they are having some weird activity at his house tomorrow that he doesn't think will be good for the kids to be around. That's totally fine.
Well, the kids came home just a little after 10:00 pm (I was starting to get worried)-and they invited Eric to come and see how their new rooms turned out. So he just waltzes in and heads downstairs. A little irritating- he has been asking for permission to come in since he moved out- but not today. I asked the kids what they did today and they said they helped daddy move all day. I said "what? where to?". Then he says "no- I'm still in the same place." So I probe further and find out they have spent the day moving Corilynn (the girlfriend) into a new place. So I ask more questions and find out that she has moved in with her parents. OK- now that makes me happy. My mind immediately starts going haywire- I was worried that she was moving in with him, or he was moving in with her- or they had gotten a place together. So that was a relief. At least there will be a little more "supervision" going on with these lovebirds. A little less freedom. I am smiling.
He asked about how I would like him to pay the child support (which is due on Monday-hallelujah). I told him check or transfer would be fine. So I am happy to see that he is going to follow through with that in a timely manner. I have been totally stressed about money- so that is at least one less worry.
So then, still being annoyed that he again spent the day with our kids, Corilynn and her kids again- I find out that she is waiting in the car. Aha!! I told Eric that I would like to meet her- he says "why?" I said "Because I want to know who my children are spending time with. So he goes out to ask her- but I just followed him out- knowing that she would probably be too embarrassed or worried to meet me. I could see the worry on her face. It was priceless. I just stuck my head in the car and said "Hi!" She looks like she's about 20-25. Super skinny-super pretty. She said it was nice to meet me- I didn't say anything back. Then her little girl rolled down the window in the back. They told me her name and I told her she was very cute- and she is. I said "Don't you have two kids?" and she said that her other one was with her mom and dad. I know he is a boy and a little bit older- I think they are 5 and 7. So I just said- OK- bye!! and walked off.
I hope that made her nervous as hell. I want her to know I am not happy about this situation- but I will be an adult and put everything out on the table. I am glad she makes him happy. He deserves to be happy- I never could do that for him. Well maybe in the beginning. But his happy side will wear off and she will be stuck with the moody, super strict, super quirky, jackass that I was with for all those years. He does his best when in new situations. I wish them the best. I just wish this was way down the road. However- I know it wouldn't be easy then either.
I asked the kids lots of questions. They like her, she is nice. They like her kids. She has a trampoline- lots of toys, a Wii. So they are happy. I just hope Eric won't put them on the back burner while he is sowing his wild oats with her- and he better not be doing that while they are under his watch or there will be hell to pay! Look at me being such a grown up about this whole thing...NOT! Hopefully he will start thinking with the right head and slow this down a tad. But if not- I will be supportive. If she can love my kids and accept him- then everyone wins. He is a great catch. I hope she is too.
It just ticks me off because I asked him specifically if he was interested in or seeing anyone when we were splitting up. He swore that there was no one. It was just the problems between us. They both work at the same place. I have heard her name in the past but I don't think I have ever met her. The whole thing seems fishy and they are so serious already. I know better-but I will let him lie about it. He may not have been screwing her, but he was thinking about it. All the signs of an emotional affair were there and I was reading them- he just wouldn't admit it. The fact that she is so much younger than him just confirms his midlife crisis. When do I get to have my midlife crisis?? When do I get to run off with some handsome new man and sow my wild oats? I probably wont. I know I have a lot of work to do on myself before I can even consider getting serious with anyone. And do I really want to even go down that road again? I think I have had my heart broken enough times- and the kids really don't need any further complication in their lives!!
Breathe, breathe, breathe- ok I have totally vented. Sorry you had to read it--- but I feel a bit better just writing all this down. It's cheap therapy.
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